Anna & Amos

This photo prompted me to think about creating “poetry from the evidence” (see my about page for the reference), and the qualities that make you want to stay with a photograph, to keep looking at it. It’s pretty rare. I chose this photo to be the header of my blog for many reasons, which I’ve never articulated.

For me, the first thing my eye goes to is Anna’s finger, so strong, trying to dig into that space between the planks. I love her curiosity, her determination. I feel reverence for how much time we spend, in childhood, to examine the details, to look in the cracks.

Then I feel the wooden planks, their texture, and think of the possible splinters. This tension is immediately calmed by Amos, lazily lying there, watching me watching them. I think he’s telling me not to worry about the splinters, that he’s on duty as the guardian angel. He was a stray cat who spent his evenings in the forest and his days with my sister and her family. He’s the first cat I loved. He came right to my lap whenever I sat down, disarming the dog-lover that I am.

I notice the watering can behind Amos, also lying down. It reminds me of the joy of watering flowers for my mom when I was young, and had nothing more pressing to do. Taking pride in the responsibility.

Then I see Anna’s eyelashes, her chubby cheeks and chubby little arm and feel my heart simultaneously ache and delight in the sweet innocence of toddlerhood. It’s so fleeting. I’m grateful for this photograph, this teeny tiny moment, paused, so we can spend time with it. It might seem silly, or obvious, but I don’t think I’ve ever really said the words, I am so grateful for photography.

Me & sweet Amos, the first cat I ever held and cuddled.

“We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started, and know the place for the first time.”

— T. S. Eliot

carrying around a piece of my childhood

I’m fascinated how objects follow you through time. I moved from Chicago to France several years ago, and this keychain I never remembered packing has followed me.

I remember vividly the moment I first saw it. I was 5 years old. It was Christmas time and we were in one of the bedrooms at at my grandmother’s house. The walls were 70’s style dark-wood panelled and the beige carpet was soft and cushy on bare feet. We were sitting on the bed, trying hard not to bounce, as we’d been told repeatedly “no jumping!.” My aunt Sam brought my cousin Krista and me into the room because she had something for us.

She had two keychains, both shaped like hearts. One was big and smooth, with a bright red rose inside of it. The other was small, with scalloped edges, and a little yellow rose inside. We had to choose which one we wanted. I don’t remember who spoke first, but I do remember longing for that red one, and hoping my cousin longed for the yellow one in the same way. I felt such excitement at the prospect of having it be mine, and a fear that my cousin might want it too. In my memory, she chose first. The yellow one! I felt such relief! I could have that sweet red rose!

(After I post this, I’m going to email her to see if she has the same memory.)

I adored this plastic keychain beyond all reason. I didn’t judge or even consider what it was made of. A flower held immobile and eternal in some transparent material that reminded me of water and ice cubes and glass, just dazzled me. I remember being absolutely absorbed into it, noticing all the details, as children have the time to do. And almost 40 years later, I still know this keychain very intimately because of that time spent studying it.

I don’t recall putting it into a box or a suitcase. But here it still is, reminding me of where I came from, and transporting me back to that bedroom, to that house-full-of-family feeling, the joy and the giggles and the love.